Understanding the Vocabulary of Silence 03-17

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जुबाँ न भी बोले तो, मुश्किल नहीं...!! . 

फिक्र तब होती है जब, . 

खामोशी भी बोलना छोड़ दे....!!!

Contrary to what the age old idiom that says “The squeaky wheel gets the grease”,

It is “The Silence” That creates the maximum understanding and impact.

One who doesn't understand any language (that you speak) perfectly understands the vocabulary of silence. 

The syllables of Silence  reverberate more effectively than the Decibel of noise.

Those who have a gift of words,, preserve & sparingly use them as a prized possession. Silence in itself is a complete vocabulary, & communication medium that conveys everything that needs to conveyed in an impact creating manner.

The most important message your silence conveys is your special identity and status. People recognise that “You are somebody, not anybody or nobody”. Thereafter every spoken word assumes extra importance. Every word you speak delivers extra value. The yearning always is more for what is less available & this applies to every spoken word coming from you. A silent man when he speaks, every word carries extra weight. People stop their activity listen very attentively, savour every word and implement seriously the advice or instructions.

The compelling unwelcome habit of giving advice mostly generic, mostly unsolicited often causes more harm than any benefit to the person in problems. The most important help you can render to anyone is to listen patiently to his problem. Once you listen to him, the other person feels light and relieved. The fog of self-doubt slowly disappears. The person starts working for a solution with a renewed energy & vigor  & more often than not, finds a solution for his problems. The solution to the problem often is lurking very near, but the disturbed mind set often comes in the way of recognizing it.

In this condition, an ounce of help is more beneficial than a pound of advice. An audience in silence is more comforting than the spoken word.

Your telling him, “Come on, you can do it”, looks farcical & artificial & may even irritate the person. Whereas your act of silent audience gives him a feeling that you have understood the gravity of the problem, & also makes him understand that he is in the best position to solve it. You have thus not only increased his self-confidence, you have re- ignited his thinking process. No wonder you will find him/her coming back to you again & again for solution.

Silence as a tool for business!!!

Silence can also be used to close the Business deals positively. After scientifically & rationally pitching for the product and stating the price, a calculated pause, a few moments of silence often adds value to your business call.

Your silence allows the customer to evaluate your pitch peacefully & rationally without distraction, A rational evaluation often helps in increasing the customer’s interest in your pitch and the product. 

Try it, if you haven’t & if you have & succeeded, please share your experience in the comments section.

But Why, Why, Why this discussion on silence?    

  

 Silence is the most valuable asset the almighty has created for us. Modern humans have lost touch with their inner "true self". Silence and stillness are a means to recovering happiness and contentment. 

In the modern world silence has practically ceased to exist. The human race has stamped its authority over the planet Earth not just by covering its surface with concrete and destroying its plant and animal life, but also by burying the natural sounds of the Earth beneath a cacophony of man-made noise. We live our lives against the background of this cacophony, with the jagged mechanical sounds of urban-industrial society continually assaulting our ears.

Is Silence then our greatest friend??

Yes indeed In reality silence is one of our greatest friends, and can—if it's allowed to reveal itself to us—have a powerfully beneficial effect on us. Inner silence & peace often allow us to converse with our true inner self. The inner self the metaphysical self often guides the physical self into a rational & meaningful thought process creating mindfulness. This leads to actions that contagiously create a sense of wellbeing everywhere.

However this simple but high-end conversation is a rare occurrence these days, given the compulsions of time, stress, professional commitments. These are the internal noises that constantly disturb the mind & the thinking process. Add to this the external man made noises emanating from the vehicles, the electronic gadgets & other accessories that human being has become addicted to. 

With all this noise & disturbances, is it possible to have the ambiance that is required for this conversation?

But yes whenever this happens it creates a massive therapeutic effect for the human being. It brings a sense of being firmly rooted in ourselves, of being truly who we are. We also have a sense of being truly where we are, realising that before we were only half-present, and everything we see around us seems intensely real and alive, as if our perceptions have become much more acute.

But above all, we experience a profound sense of inner peace and natural happiness. The nature of consciousness-in-itself (which means the consciousness inside us and the consciousness which pervades the whole universe) is bliss. Getting into contact with the pure consciousness inside us enables us, therefore, to experience this bliss. Indeed, it could be said that it's only when we do this that we can experience true happiness.

The importance of silence in our lives can never be explained enough or satisfactorily. While words communicate & convey, silence communicates & impacts.

In the Symphony of silence, is the extravagance of austerity.

And Finally,

Is it possible to remain silent, when the discussion is on Silence?

Please come out with your valuable inputs insights.

I am eagerly waiting for them.

Best Wishes,

Shyam.

An Insight from Maryann Piazza

Now reading this post it has occured to me that the most effective responses I have recieved is when a situation occurred and time had lapsed without a immediate response from me. Never really thought about the impact until now. People were more concerned about what my take away was because my silence for a brief time after was just that...silence. It weighed more heavily on them until I did respond. I have been living and applying this technique not realizing the effectness of it.